Embrace your shadows


Today was one of those days I woke up not feeling at my highest good, which I consider pretty normal by the way. It’s impossible to feel energized and motivated every single day. As human beings we go through so many issues during the day, that is completely ok to experience low energy or uncertainty once in a while. However, today I felt something different in the air, as if everything was out of place, I even got a phone call from an acquaintance willing to share his thoughts on how people are behaving on their social networks.

He mentioned Facebook and Instagram to be more specific and how people are doing whatever it takes to get more likes or calling attention to themselves. That’s not news for any of us, we know that “getting likes” on social media is the new addiction. Amongst with drinking, shopping, gambling, doing drugs and smoking – expecting to be liked and “celebrated” on these social media apparently makes people feel worthy, loved and needed. There are also recent scientific researches that show that our brain reacts the same way by doing drugs or getting likes on our posts.

Can you see the gap here? The reason why people are looking for validation on their social networks is mainly the same as doing drugs: the likelihood is that they are feeling lonely or empty inside as a result of a life designed to impress people that they don’t even know for no particular reason (I’m not talking about the people who make money as influencers). Today there are more than 8 billion people living on this planet and even nowadays when there’s no walls between different cultures, there’s “less distance” one another, if they really want to communicate with each other there are many different ways to do so and there’s still people feeling lonely, empty and rejected.

Apparently our education wasn’t enough to provide the life of our dreams, our dream job is not what we believed to be, our relationships are somehow fading away, religion has betrayed our faith in the name of controlling, status and fear… So what is left for us?

I strongly believe that the best days of our lives are when we look at things and can make the most of what we already have. Our existence on this planet is rooted in duality: sometimes we feel really creative and happy one day but suddenly doubt and fear arise the day after. And because we weren’t taught to appreciate and celebrate our own darkness we feel that we are lost, not good enough, that we don’t fit in or even worst – we think that there’s something wrong with us. But our sadness, our loneliness, our doubts lead us to find another exit door and to create new possibilities. Thereby, how bad it is to feel under the weather once in a while if that can take us to a better place in the future?

By experiencing our bad times to the fullest we grant ourselves the right to find the best of us that is underneath the surface. At the end of the day what really works for us to thrive is allowing our darkest moments to arise. Embrace your shadows, validate your feelings, cry if you will, curse, scream, let it out!!! Then feel the complaisant sound of your heartbeat reminding you that life happens in every heartbeat, every breath you take, every blink of an eye, every sound outside. There’s nothing wrong with you, even while undergoing these moments you are still succeeding.

Let’s expand our view and look around us for a second and see that there’s more people out there suffering. What can you do today to reach out for the ones that are in need?

Ultimately our very purpose in life is serving others, I know you can go out of your sadness and make a difference. Just be yourself, embrace your shadows.

Published by Talent Life Coaching

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