Last week I wrote an article about how to manage anxiety and be more present. On the following comments of that article one single question brought up a humble and accurate doubt, a friend of mine asked: -“When do I know it’s time to ask for help?”
My answer to that question was exactly this:
(It’s time to ask for help) When you feel powerless; when you don’t wanna socialize; when you realize your life is stuck and you can’t find a way to get out of that stage; when you don’t appreciate the things you use to enjoy; when you can’t control your thoughts; when you can only find reasons to complain; or when life is just boring. Everybody feels like that once in a while, but it’s important to acknowledge when these feelings occur and for how long they last.
The second question that is implicit here is “How do I know when I need a therapist or a Life Coach?” A therapist will always look for the past occurrences and will try to find its roots to allow the client to get in touch with his own feelings, thus the teraphyst will be able to guide the client to a new understanding. A coach will help the client see his life the way it is in the present moment (like a screenshot of his life), and this is going to be the kick off to help the client visualize the big picture. In addition the client will define the areas to be focused during the program and set the desired goals in each one of them. In a few words, we can say that coaching is directed to visualize the present moment the way it is to help the clients design the strategies or the paths that are going to take them to the desired goals or accomplishments that they have envisioned on the first session that are aligned with their values and beliefs.
For instance, let’s say you have a business you’ve been putting all your energy on but it doesn’t seem to grow; let’s say you have a relationship where the other person seems aloof to your presence; or maybe you’re just having problems to be understood by your peers. A coach can really help you find the balance you need to improve your life whether it’s a weight loss; increasing your energy; working on your self-esteem or even discovering a new ability, a new career, or the way I like to call it – your talent. There are many techniques and each professional designs her sessions based on her previous studies, references and professional experiences.
It’s always important to acknowledge that the client sets the pace for each session and he has to be accountable for his own gains; which means that to get the most of every session the client must be willing to commit to the program and do his homework everyday and that I may say is a lot of fun. There’s no such thing as hard work when you’re working on what makes you feel balanced, joyful and complete. The old saying fits perfectly here: “If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.”
Now instead of keep staring at your neighbor’s grass, schedule a consultation with me today and let me guide you towards your goals. You may not need a big change in your life, but for sure there must be a few doors eager to be opened or a big dream to be fulfilled. If there’s one thing you would like to change in your life right now, what would it be?